The way the universe/god works !

How to Convert Happieness Into Joy.

There has been a lot of “happiness talk” lately. Understandably the holy grail of achieving personal happiness is a popular thought. Even countries like England are attempting to measure citizen happiness. But is the obsession with discovering happiness by itself the best course of action? For some time I (and many others) have been writing about the vital need to have a defined purpose and meaning in one’s (work) life. Let’s face it, devoting serious time to thinking about and defining our life purpose and meaning is deceptively challenging for most of us. It can even feel academic and artificial.

But more and more research demonstrates that people who have meaning in their lives in the form of a clearly defined purpose, rate their satisfaction with life higher, even when they were feeling bad than those who don’t. What sets human beings apart from animals is NOT the pursuit of happiness, but the pursuit of meaning, which is unique to humans. This is a tenant expressed by Roy F. Baumeister and John Tierney, in their recent book Willpower: Rediscovering the Greatest Human Strength. Martin Seligman, one of today’s leading psychological scientists, states that when living a meaningful life, “you use your highest strengths and talents to belong to and serve something you believe is larger than the self.” This sort of intention results in something I refer to as Joy vs. Happieness. Happieness tends to be a temporary state based in circumstance. Joy tends to be a state of being. It comes from a state of being that is the result of being in alignment with source energy or as some would say God. One’s intentions are positive coming from inspiration and filled with passion vs. neediness. Joy comes from an abundance mentality. Hence meaning allows for a deeper sense of happieness or joy.

Wharton professor Adam Grant‘s new book Give and Take reinforces the value of giving without expecting reciprocity as a key route to success. I believe it’s also a powerful connector to greater meaning and sustainable happiness.

Indeed some researchers are cautioning against chasing mere happiness. In a new study, as referenced in a recent article from The Atlantic by Emily Esfahani Smith, notes key findings in the pursuit of happiness and meaning. The following is a highlight:

“Meaning is not only about transcending the self, but also about transcending the present moment — which is perhaps the most important finding of the study, according to the researchers. While happiness is an emotion felt in the here and now, it ultimately fades away, just as all emotions do; positive affect and feelings of pleasure are fleeting. The amount of time people report feeling good or bad correlates with happiness but not at all with meaning. Happiness without meaning characterizes a relatively shallow, self-absorbed or even selfish life, in which things go well, needs and desire are easily satisfied, and difficult or taxing entanglements are avoided.”

(Ed. Note: This does NOT mean we shouldn’t be present and live in the now).

Character Moves:

Keep working on defining and refining your purpose and meaning. Focus on that and I genuinely believe achieving “happiness” in a more sustainable form will take care of itself. I call this Joy vs. Happiness.
Give more without the expectation of reciprocity. (Abundance). This behavior does not mean you’re a “push over” or “chump.” On the contrary, it is a totally free investment in you. This is not silly self-sacrificing martyrdom either. I believe, and lots of data supports this view too, that a commitment to adding more value in every exchange you have with others leads to greater success. Read Grant’s “Give and Take” to evaluate the reasoning behind this.
Connect PURPOSE/MEANING with GIVING as a way of life: This is a personal winning combination for lasting contentment and sustainable happiness.

Your thoughts are a precursor to your reality. ” observe your thoughts’.
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What you see is often not what you really get !

Two Worlds - One Relates to Our Senses and Can Be Measured One Cannot. Blue Pill - Red Pill You Pick !!

Quantum mechanics is a bit infectious. Once you think that one part of your theory of nature is quantum mechanical, the rest of the math should be quantum mechanical as well. Here’s why:

What happens when you go from classical mechanics to quantum mechanics is that observables (things you measure, like positions and momenta) go from being numbers to being operators. Now, if you want your equations to make sense, everything should be operators instead of numbers. For example, here’s the Einstein field equations, one of the central equations of general relativity:
G_{ab} = 8\pi \hat{T}_{ab}.
On the left hand side is a tensor called the Einstein tensor, which describes (part of) how space is curved. It’s just regular numbers, though—it isn’t an operator like the right hand side. The right hand side is the stress-energy tensor of matter, which describes how much energy, momentum, pressure, and stress there is in matter. But the matter is quantum mechanical, so these quantities (like energy and momentum) are not just numbers—they are operators! (That’s why I put a hat on T).

This equation makes no sense as it is written. The two sides of the equality have different types—like saying a number equals a matrix. Something has to change.

One idea is to keep gravity as classical, and just take the expectation value of the right hand side (which turns an operator into a plain old number), i.e.
G_{ab} = 8\pi \langle\hat{T}_{ab}\rangle .
This seems to have some problems with causality/locality, though, which I can’t go into.

The other idea is to think that instead, the left hand side of the equation gets modified, and gravity has to become quantum mechanical,
\hat{G}_{ab} = 8\pi \hat{T}_{ab}.
The consensus in physics is that this is the right approach—to let gravity become quantum mechanical. This idea sounds a little crazy—instead of spacetime being a smooth place where particles live, roughly we’ve got a collection of spacetimes that can interfere with each other.

The two best-studied approaches to reconciling QM and GR are String Theory and Loop Quantum Gravity. ST is studied on a fixed background (as far as I know) so the operators you get to describe spacetime are fluctuations away from that background. LQG takes a more extreme approach and throws away the background completely, instead replacing the spacetime with an (operator valued) collection of nodes and edges connecting them, which in the classical limit are supposed to become a manifold.

The Consciousness Behind Winning Consistently.

Is there a winners mentality that causes consistent performance?
I used to think that all of us athletes should always focus more on trying to win versus trying not to lose.

In sports, I have seen teams that go into a defensive shell and end up blowing a lead to their opponents because they lose momentum. They get ahead but lose in the end by not playing to win. But I also have seen the opposite; where teams are ahead in the game, get reckless and end up blowing a lead because they are too aggressive. They lose because they didn’t get effectively preventative or defensive.

People are a reflection of these two orientations. Heidi Grant Halvorson and E. Tory Higgins, in a recent HBR article, point out that the latest psychology illustrates that we have a natural tendency to either be more promotion focused or prevention focused. This very personal motivation orientation affects how we approach life’s challenges and demands. Here is what the author’s have to say about describing both focus areas:

“Promotion-focused people see their goals as creating a path to gain or advancement and concentrate on the rewards that will accrue when they achieve them. They are eager and they play to win. You’ll recognize promotion-focused people as those who are comfortable taking chances, who like to work quickly, who dream big and think creatively. Unfortunately, all that chance taking, speedy working, and positive thinking makes these individuals more prone to error, less likely to think things through, and usually unprepared with a plan B if things go wrong. That’s a price they are willing to pay, because for the promotion-focused, the worst thing is a chance not taken, a reward unearned, a failure to advance.

Prevention-focused people, in contrast, see their goals as responsibilities, and they concentrate on staying safe. They worry about what might go wrong if they don’t work hard enough or aren’t careful enough. They are vigilant and play to not lose, to hang on to what they have, to maintain the status quo. They are often more risk-averse, but their work is also more thorough, accurate, and carefully considered. To succeed, they work slowly and meticulously. They aren’t usually the most creative thinkers, but they may have excellent analytical and problem-solving skills.

The promotion-focused are engaged by inspirational role models, the prevention-focused by cautionary tales. What I have learned is that we need to consciously embrace a balance of both motivation focuses. While the promotion-minded generate lots of ideas, good and bad, it often takes someone prevention-minded to tell the difference between the two. To win in a sustainable way needs BOTH.”

Recognize which motivation focus you are. (You may already know this but you can take a focus check by self-assessing your orientation here). Are you more promotion or prevention based?
Balance yourself by connecting with people who have the opposite focus to you. I believe both people and teams need the dynamic tension of both. Surround yourself with some of the opposite and your decision-making will be better for it.
Learn how to connect both motivational orientations within yourself in as balanced way as possible. We have to be motivationally ambidextrous these days. This may be a paradox but we can do it. We have to learn how to PROMOTE and PREVENT at the same time: Playing to win AND not to lose.
The real trick is knowing which way to sway. Do you lean more forward and play aggressive offense or do you play prevent defense? The answer is to be aware of the benefit of both approaches and decide based on the situation you’re in. It is case by case NOT just one way or the other.

What To Do When You Anger Another And Want Retain the Relationship

Ever make someone mad? Do you know the difference and benefit between explaining the intention of your behavior versus acknowledging the consequences? I wish I would have understood this principle earlier in my life. It would have helped me immensely with my relationships.

When I do something to upset someone else, it is easy to fall into the trap of trying to explain and justify my intension. Of course from my perspective, my behavior is usually totally understandable. Any reasonable person could see that, right? Wrong!

“When you’ve done something that upsets someone — no matter who’s right — always start the conversation by acknowledging how your actions impacted the other person. Save the discussion about your intentions for later. Much later. Maybe never. Because, in the end, your intentions don’t matter much.

What if you don’t think the other person is right — or justified — in feeling the way they do? It doesn’t matter. Because you’re not striving for agreement. You’re going for understanding…

Your job is to acknowledge their reality — which is critical to maintaining the relationship… If someone’s reality, as they see it, is negated, what motivation do they have to stay in the relationship?

The hardest part is our emotional resistance. We’re so focused on our own challenges that it’s often hard to acknowledge the challenges of others. Especially if we are their challenge and they are ours. Especially when they lash out at us in anger. Especially when we feel misunderstood. In that moment, when we empathize with them and their criticism of our behavior, it almost feels like we’re betraying ourselves. But we’re not. We’re just empathizing.

Here’s a trick to make it easier. While they’re getting angry at you, imagine, instead, that they’re angry at someone else. Then react as you would in that situation. Probably you’d listen and let them know you see how angry they are. And if you never get to explain your intentions? What I have found in practice — and this surprised me — is that once I’ve expressed my understanding of the consequences, my need to justify my intentions dissipates.

That’s because the reason I’m explaining my intentions in the first place is to repair the relationship. But I’ve already accomplished that by empathizing with their experience. At that point, we’re both usually ready to move on. And if you do still feel the need? You’ll still have the opportunity, once the other person feels seen, heard, and understood.

If we succeed in doing all this well, we’ll often find that, along with our relationships, something else gets better: Our behavior.”

Remember that when you make someone angry, constructively moving forward means striving for understanding, not agreement.
The most important thing is to sincerely understand the consequences of your behavior and empathize with the other regarding the impact on them. Then shut up and just listen.

How Does A Thought About The Past Effect Our Future

We get caught up in our thoughts. We then create our reality based on our perceptions and hurt the ones we love.

I woke up one day and was upset because my girlfriend at the time had not stood by what appeared to me a clear agreement. She seemed to be ignoring me and the issue at hand. She appeared oblivious, unaware or worse purposeful. She appeared to be divesting - removing energy from the relationship. I could be hurt. Not a good situation for me I thought. I approached from fear - cause I was scared. We see what we see and interpret situational facts based on our past - not on what is actually going on. I was way off base. It took a week for us to get back on the same page; way too long, but it was our first real argument. A good friend of mine shared this story with me. It is a true to life situation that he had recently gone through. I saw myself in it; maybe you will to. Let me share with you the story.

“When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. I observed the hurt in her eyes.

Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. She didn’t seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?
I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn’t talk. I heard her weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn’t love her anymore.
With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.

The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn’t have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.
In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn’t want anything from me, but needed a month’s notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month’s time and she didn’t want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.

This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that every day for the month’s duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.

I told Jane about my wife’s divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.

My wife and I hadn’t had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don’t tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn’t looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.

On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn’t tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.

She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.

Suddenly it hit me… she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.

Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it’s time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.
But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn’t noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office…. jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind…I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore.

She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won’t divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn’t value the details of our lives, not because we didn’t love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart. Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I’ll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.

That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed -dead. My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push through with the divorce.— At least, in the eyes of our son—- I would be a loving husband.”

The small details of our lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the house, the yacht, the car, property, or money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves.

Find time to be your spouse’s friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage! If you don’t share this, nothing will happen to you. If you do, you just might save a marriage. Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up. Anything worth having is worth working for. Remember, your thoughts create your reality. Change your thoughts, change the life situation. It is really that easy.

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Self Compassion = Selfish ?

The Myths of Self-Compassion

Myth 1: Self-compassion is selfish.

Self-compassion can be seen as selfish, that taking care of yourself means you are not doing what you are supposed to be doing: Taking care of someone else.

Reality: Caring for others requires loving-kindness and authenticity. If you haven’t created those traits for yourself, how can you give them to others?

Myth 2: Self-compassion is indulgent.

You might be concerned that being nice to yourself just lets you off the hook and encourages you to be self-indulgent.

Reality: Self-compassion is about your health and well being while self-indulgence is about getting anything you want when you want it without thoughts of well being. Self-compassion is about noticing and being with your pain. Self-indulgence is about numbing and denying your pain.

Myth 3: Self-criticism is what motivates you.

Self-criticism does provide basic motivation, like keeping us safe.

Reality: We have many ways to keep ourselves safe, so we really don’t need a critical voice in our heads to do so. Similarly, we don’t need to be internally nagged and disparaged to accomplish things. Being self-compassionate gives you the confidence you need to motivate yourself.

Myth 4: Self-compassion is wimpy.

In our individualistic society, you are supposed to “pull yourself up by your bootstraps” and tough things out. Be kind to yourself? Quit being such a wimp!

Reality: Actually, self-compassion serves to heal and strengthen you. It is, in fact, the strongest and most resilient among us who have the courage to be kind to ourselves.

Character Moves:

Acknowledge your suffering and pain. You have likely been conditioned to ignore, deny, or suppress your pain but this will only result in more suffering down the road. Practice noticing your pain, tender spots and gently give yourself validation that they are real and deserve compassion.
Treat yourself as you would a friend. Think for a moment of how you talk to yourself when you are going through a rough time. Now think about if your friend was experiencing the same thing. How would you talk to her? Him? Talk to and treat yourself as you would your friend. Speak gently to yourself. Be understanding.
Remember the idea of common humanity. Even if you are going through a tough time of your own doing, does that mean you shouldn’t be kind to yourself? No. It means you’re human.
Practice mindfulness without judgment. Mindfulness is about paying attention to your current experience without judgment. Rather than running away from or suppressing pain, mindfulness allows us just to be with these feelings as they are.

Think Good, Speak Good and Do Good !!

Do it now, be nice, give more.

I just celebrated my birthday this week. I realized how blessed I was getting 100’s of birthday greetings and ultimately having a great group of friends share the celebration with me. Some driving in and staying overnight to participate. I realized that my investment in those relationships over the years was well worth the goodness invested and I thought about the process and wanted to share it.

I ask people at all levels and positions what really makes them happy at work. Is it feeling valued? Purpose driven? Engaged? It almost always ends up in providing value to others and the feeling that goes along with this act. It rarely comes down to something related to how rich, smart, or thin we are, etc. I find it so interesting that Shari Arison, one of the wealthiest people in the world, has a message about becoming rich that has little if anything to do with making money. Arison’s motto, as captured in her new book Activate Your Goodness is: “Think good, speak good, do good.” It is deceptively simple. This is what activates the process I refer to in my opening paragraph.

Do it now, be nice, give more.

If we choose to concentrate on good thoughts, communicate positively with others and act out our goodness by doing deeds for the benefit of others, each one of us becomes transformed from the INSIDE. When we do it now, act nice and give more, we become driven by the power of goodness, and extraordinary things happen. Like Ms. Arison states, “Think good, speak good, and do good is a life changing motto. It can lead us on a personal journey, filled with opportunities to connect and activate our own goodness. This immediately resonates outwards touching all aspects of life, creating positive change along its path.” It changes our frequency, it becomes our consciousness.

I think the breakthrough for more progress is in the word “ACTIVATE.” Although goodness is important in both thought and words, we ultimately have to DO, in order to complete the trifecta. What is your activate button?

Awareness about the benefit of goodness is NOT by itself the key to doing something. In fact research tells us that our normal default “button” is to do nothing after becoming aware. So each of us has to overcome the fear related to inertia, and put ourselves out in the world of “DO!”

Do it now, be nice, give more. Everytime you do this - you are making a deposit in a bank account that pays 500% interest. You will begin to see things coming back to you. Synchronicity as I call them in my books. As these manifestations begin to unfold your faith builds and before you know it manifesting what you desire is no longer the issue.

Seeking to manifest purely for selfish reasons is typically coming from a place of lack, a place where the seeds of a manifestation cannot even grow. I see people, men and women in the local scene doing things from a place of expectation. i.e if I buy you a drink, if I give you my time, if I donate money to your cause, then what and when will I rec. something back. This is really just an exchange of goods and services and you will typically get back exactly what you are giving. Nothing of real value or substance, nor will this sort of relationship last.

Even this little shell game trick works to manifest - just nothing of true value. It is a short term exchange that flitters away the moment the giver and the receiver realize the manipulation is just that…..Men and woman seem to use this technique with each other to draw one another into a relationship only to find that what they have created is a short term transaction that will eventually fail. Hence, the divorce rate being at an all time high in the US. Long term relationships come from each part giving 120% - - from the heart. It is not about dividing up the pie between two people but by having both parties taking ownership of the entire pie. The same approach can be applied in almost any relationship. You don’t even have to worry about those shell game givers out there - they are not a concern. Why ? Cause when you give 120% you always activate the sort of consciousness that resonates in such a way that gets the universe on your side and working for you. It begins to organize, and align people money circumstances so that your truest wishes come true. Some call this luck - its not luck folks.

Do it now, be nice, give more.

Judging Others Says More About Us Then the Subject of Our Judgement.

We know having a lack of compassion and prejudging others can be very harmful, mostly to ourselves. If we think like this, it diminishes us. It makes us smaller. Why do we do it? How do we minimize behaving that way?

I was boarding a plane to do my monthly run back and forth to Chicago from Florida and across from me I heard a sweet voice meekly ask the flight attendant for a seat belt extension. The young woman was obese and required more length so she could get the seatbelt around her. She sounded humiliated and immediately you could feel the “tsk-tsk” from other passengers float through the air. “How could she allow herself to get like that?” Etc. But imagine if we were on that same plane, each of us TOTALLY exposed? What if all our personal shortcomings, mistakes, and total humanity was as visible as our weight? The flight attendant would come by and we would ask, “could I have an extension for my hubris behavior? I just can’t tighten my seat belt being this narcissistic. With all the jealously driven, mean spirited behavior I’ve demonstrated over the past week, it just makes the seat belt too short. Could I have a belt extension please?” And so on. Somehow I think the rest of us would need “extensions” too.

Character Moves:

Remember to fix yourself first.

Reinforce the principle of being compassionate as a strength versus a weakness. We often have little or no idea of the complexity that causes people to act or not act in certain ways. Seeking to understand and support is important to each of us because it is a reflection of how we treat ourselves first.
When we are prone to discriminate or prejudge, ask for a mind extension to expand your thinking. Ask what it would be like to be in the other person’s shoes. What would it feel like? How would we want to be treated if we were in that seat? Could it be possible that it under certain circumstances it could be us one day? The wise saying, “But for the grace of God,” has a powerful reason to it.
Sharpen your observation and understanding to learn about the entire person. Of course it includes the way they look, but more importantly, how they think, what they believe in, how they treat themselves and others. Get a complete picture and then ask for that mind extension to understand with even more compassion. (This also means being able to set healthy boundaries between others who could cause us personal harm).
One of the great skills in developing a higher order of compassion is learning how to re-frame. This is the ability to put a different “perspective” around a picture. When we learn how to constructively do that, the landscape and story changes.

God Bless -

Be Open Humble Gracious…..just do it !

I’m amazed how being open or growth minded is unrelated to age and experience. Every organization and person is going through change. It’s just a law of nature (and maybe technology)? I’ve seen “stick in the mud” resistance from people of all ages, backgrounds, and vice versa. Being a continuous student is a mindset and characteristic of being respectful. It is the essence of respect: To look again. How about you? Are you open to new ideas? Really? How would you feel if these principles were implemented in your workplace?

A. People at all levels stop doing any activity that is a waste of their time, the customer’s time, or the company’s money.

B. Employees have the freedom to work any way they want. 


C. Every day feels like Saturday.

D. People have an unlimited amount of paid time off (PTO) as long as they get their work done.

E. Work isn’t a place you go, it’s something you do.

F. Arriving at the workplace at 2:00 p.m. is not considered coming in late. Leaving the office at 2:00 p.m. is not considered leaving early.

G. Nobody talks about how many hours they work.

H. Every meeting is optional.

I. It’s OK to grocery shop on a Wednesday morning, or catch a movie on a Tuesday afternoon.

J. There are no work schedules.

K. Nobody feels guilty, overworked, or stressed out.

L. There aren’t any last-minute fire drills.

M. There is no judgment about how you spend your time.

These are the guideposts for a Results-Only Work Environment that I have observed as actually functional in a high consciousness environment. Everyone is on the same team…..

Character Moves:

Take the time to really examine each of those 13 guideposts. What do your reactions tell you about yourself and your assumptions about work? Be a critical thinker. Neither accept nor reject any until you give them some real soak time.

As we get more experienced we actually know less every day and must open ourselves to new thinking that challenges our assumptions. Our view of the world is just one view. Humbling ourselves allows us to continue being a student and open.

Be open humble and gracious and put the universe to work for you.

For Those of You that Dress your Dog up like a Person.

For those of you that dress your dog up like a person. God is not a person either and it does not speak or understand English so quit dressing god up like a dog.

Heaven is a state of mind, not a location, since Spirit is everywhere and in everything. You can begin equalizing your material and spiritual life by making a conscious decision to look for the unfolding of Spirit in everything and everyone you encounter. peterbaksa.com